Sunday, January 30, 2011


Wasnt gonna go to rehab today n instead get some stuff done here at home, but im going down cuz theres more to be discussed with therapies n care management, and things are moving along swiftly now. I wont get there on a weekday when main staffs there again til tuesday if i dont go today.

Danny asked me 2 print pix of us 2 look at but library doesnt open til 12 so im off 2 make it 4 lunch with him. Mayb computers at rehab have a printer. Yesterday when puttin cream on his itchy knees i made eyes at him n he asked if i was tryin 2 turn him on n i said yea. He said you did that a long time ago so u dont even have 2 do that shit. Aw how sweet my babe is :-)

On our way to barbs. She is supposed to not be alone tonight cuz of some pretty serious tooth extractions. Tomorrow nick goes with his dad overnight and i spend the wknd with the sweetest guy god ever created. Homecoming is a wk away. Next wk some appts 4 him, and family training 4 us on wed.

We had quite a spell of bad weather that last week of ice or snow storm after another. Nick went to spend the wknd with his dad and I spent the wknd between Barb's and the rehab. Danny was getting just a little better at a time every day...small things others wouldn't really notice, were evident to me sometimes. He could be restless, but he was also becomming less anxious...more calm and patient. Occasionally he would take an interest in some grooming. I helped him shave and he actually did well, but only took a trim off his quickly growing beard. It was enough to spiff him up a bit though. He didn't have the attention span to stick with any activity for more than a few minutes, but it was still an improvement.

all shaved and showered

He enjoyed looking at pictures...of Nick and I as well as his family. One of the first things we had all done after the accident, was to bring in lots of pictures and put them up all around where he could see them. On Saturday I printed a bunch and made them into a little booklet. He paged through it all week, noting what he remembered about them. 
One subject we had avoided was his dad. None of us had told him his dad passed away in 2006. He looked at his picture a few times, but didn't ask...and we didn't tell. It just didn't seem like the time.
I was awake pretty near all the time that wknd, at the rehab all day, walking with Danny and helping him do things, and at Barb's up late on the computer. Even when I did lie down to sleep, my mind was just too busy to let rest come. Saturday the staff and I were trying for hours to get Danny to lie down for the night. He was utterly exhausted, and his gait was wobbly. I laid in his bed and George, one of the aides would convince him to come lie down with me, but after a short rest of ten minutes at most, he would get up again. I heard George telling him he would help him wash up and get ready for bed, and I don't remember anything else for a time because I ended up falling asleep. I partially awoke to feel Danny being tucked into bed with me. I wrapped my arm over him, put my head on his chest and fell asleep again. Around 1am I awoke. Danny was sound asleep. I snuck out of his bed and got ready to go. When the nurse saw me leaving she said..."Oh, I was gonna leave you there. His roommate is gone anyway. It would have been ok." I decided to go on home. In retrospect I don't know why I didn't just stay. I guess it just felt odd at the time...

How precious. I went to sleep n danny got washed up n came to bed. They said i could have stayed n slept with him since his roommate is gone now, but i left my sleeping babe n am on my way back to barbs. So hard to leave. But so cool that they would have let me stay.

Thursday, January 27, 2011


Danny aced his swallow test! What a sight him walking back onto the unit wearing a huge smile n the 2 speech girls giving thumbs up! Nurses clapped n cheered! I of course could barely hide my tears. He can have regular liquids n puree foods! He got a big choc milkshake right away! 

Thursday afternoon speech took Danny off the unit once again to attempt the swallow study. He was still having the same trouble sitting still, and I didn't expect the test to be a success. I told him before he left the floor how important it was to try as hard as he possibly could to sit still for the test. A half hour later, here comes Danny walking with the two speech therapists, all three with big smiles on their faces! "HE ACED IT!!" one of the therapists said, waving a fist happily in the air. The nurses and aides clapped their hands and I of course was in tears. It was so emotional for me...such a massive relief after all the weeks denying Danny even sips of water when he felt he was dying of thirst. One of the therapists went straight away and came back with a huge chocolate milkshake for Danny. It was such a pleasure watching him drink it. He sucked it down holding it in one hand, while making calls to more family with the great knews with the other.
Danny got his puree supper tray. What a trip...he was so comical eating n commenting on tastes n doing funny kinda confused things with the items on the tray. The tube feeds are suspended as well! Today was a glorious day. Its possible now that danny may be coming home in abt a week! 
At supper time his puree food tray came. FINALLY, he could sit in the dining room and eat with everyone, where before I always tried to steer him away from that area at mealtime, pitying him for not being allowed food. Confused, he was a riot to watch eat. He poured juice into his tea, dipped mashed potatoes into his pudding, opened all the packs of condiments. He kept getting up from the table and being funny with all of us. His eating was kind of sloppy, as though he could not judge how much food to put on a spoon at once. All n all it was a day to celebrate, especially since I was told the tube feedings would be stopping now!! His Aunt Judy wrote the following entry on her Facebook the following morning....
by Judy Peletsky on Friday, January 28, 2011 at 8:20am

Oh what a wonderful visit with Danny at the rehab center .We got to see him have his first drink, a milk shake, and also his first meal since his accident on December 4th. He laughed with us, smiled all day, asked a lot of questions about the accident and wanted to know how I knew the answers to most of them. He wanted me to say a few bad words and when I told him no he said I won't let you get in trouble. He told me he liked my sweatshirt, then in a few hours told me it was ugly, it's not ugly it had a sail boat on the front. When we went to leave he told us no we had to stay, so we did for about another hour then when we did go he needed to know when we would be back, and in a day or two was not a good enough answer he needed to know the day. I love him so much! What a great young man he is.

Kathleen Quinn-Farber I am so glad you and Uncle Jack got to see that wonderful moment when he was told he passed the swallow study and could eat and drink. It was an evening im sure we will never forget!! God I just love him so much and thank God all the time for giving him a second chance at life!!!! Love you
January 31 at 12:41am

Wednesday, January 26, 2011


Danny went up n down practice steps for me, and then 2 flights of stairs today, and did great. He is practicing stepping up and down curbs, and stepping over obstacles. Tomorrow phone calls again, and some organizing in the house. Up to home depot 2 shop 4 railing 4 opposite side of stairway and in the shower. 
Despite 7 missed days due to the accident, being upset for danny, and the chaos of the past 7 1/2 wks, nick was once again only 4 points from straight A's! I am so proud of the kid he has become over the past 2yrs. Danny, you really instilled the desire in nick 2 do his best, have a good attitude abt n care abt his education. IlyD! 
Oh my, so many phone calls 2 make, forms 2 fill out, n information 2 organize. I need 2 spend the day sorting thru this paper trail n making lists. I can feel my attention deficit disorder most at these times. Danny would say 2 relax, breathe, pay attention, go one step at a time. Im listening hunny, n we will get thru all this together one step at a time. 
Almost midnight, still up n finishing wash n odds n ends. Still tons 2 do but not tonight. Up to get nick 2 school then down 2 see danny. The nurse told me when i called tonight that he walked less n rested in his bed more! 

Tuesday, January 25, 2011


Danny was unable to stay seated on the transport van n so they couldn take him 2 his appt. He was so full of anxiety n a mess. Dont know when they will reschedule. He needs 2 b able 2 sit still 4 a swallow study 2 n not sure he can. Hang tough hun. This too shall pass! 
On my way to the rehab. Care manager meeting 2day when she has a few moments. Time 2 start getting solid plans in place. 
Red tape when it comes to the state n its programs. We are looking@abt 2wks til discharge n danny will need constant supervision 4 sum time. Therapies will be 3x/wk for 4hrs here@good shepherd, plus follow ups here n there. My main worry? How will i take him anywhere w/o him stepping out of the car? Im praying he overcomes the impulsivity hes having n improves his safety awareness. 

Danny was improved with his ability to stay still much of the time, but being seatbelted into a wheelchair for transport to the bone doctor proved to be a disaster. Wendy, one of the aides was to accompany us on the van. She was a very calm, soothing and patient person. Danny did fine being wheeled out of the facility. Sometimes it was hard to remember that he was so very confused, and I was sorta expecting a happy comment about getting outside when we left the unit. Out front the van awaited, the wheelchair was lifted in, and the driver secured several chain-like straps to various parts of the chair. Then it started. Danny undid his seatbelt and stood up in tears. "Please, I just have to stand for a moment" We allowed him to, since this was common behavior for him all the time...frequent breaks to stand. But each time we redid the belt, off it came again. Danny's anxiousness escalated to the point where he was crying and shaking...begging to be allowed to stand. Then he would apologize profusely and promise to stay seated, only to repeat the process all over again in 30 seconds. Wendy took him off the bus for a break, then brought him on again. Same thing. The driver was telling us he could not move the van or take Danny to the appointment because he was unsafe. We finally took him off and back to the unit. It was very disappointing as we were hoping the bone doctor would remove the brace that day so we could stop battling with Danny all the time about leaving it on.
The need to keep standing was interfering with speech therapy clearing him for drinks and food as well, because they needed to do a swallow study, and Danny would have to sit very still and for a good 15-20 minutes. They had attempted it twice so far and it just wasn't working out. Danny was still begging for drinks and it was so difficult to deal with that.
The care manager met with me to start setting solid plans in place for a discharge to take place in two weeks. She set me up with the therapies that would take place three times a week, and also all initial follow-up doctor appointments were made.
My main worry was Danny's impulsivity and lack of safety awareness. I began to worry about how I would be able to transport him anywhere in a vehicle by myself.

Monday, January 24, 2011


A Love Poem...
Monday, January 24, 2011 at 1:17am

I love the way my head comes to the point to softly rest,
on the part of you benieth your neck and lightly on your chest.
I love the way your whiskers tickle gently on my face
and brush with tenderness on every soft and tender place.
I love the way I tremble when you touch me with your hands,
that sweet forbidden passion only lovers understand.
I love the way you smile at me and court me with your eyes
the trust and honesty that makes me know there are no lies
I love to feel your warm breath all across my quivering skin
when I feel the urge to hold you,love you, deeply let you in.
I love our silly jokes and sayings, all our funny words
that help me just by recall when my day's become absurd
I love the most the feeling of your arms encircling me
protecting and reviving now the woman I can be
and when you lay me down so soft, and like a delicate rose
you make me part of you and you of me, from head to toes
I love the feelings that I get whenever you are near
you take away my anger and my bitterness and fear
replacing all that has been broke with something very new
Its why I love all pieces of the thing called me and you.
-Kathleen M. Quinn-Farber

I love and miss you so Danny. I dream of being together again at home...of being close. 
And its so real, 
that when I lie my hand on my tummy,
its your hand that I feel....
when I go to sleep, 
it is your eyes that are closing.  
Facebook on January 24 at 1:48am

Saturday, January 22, 2011


Up, nicks off to school, showered n gettin dressed. Another busy day ahead. Team careplan update today. Hoping dannys in better spirits today. I looked it up last night n any cervical fracture at all constitutes a broken neck! Somehow I just never registered this as a "broken neck" odd. He needs 2 stop rippin the neck brace off. Its playin w/fire! 3wks till my babe comes home i hope! IlyD 
Dannys been just the sweetest thing so far today. I got a big hug n "i love u kath"when i arrived,&in the PT gym he came over n asked if i was ok, then put his arms round me n kissed me 3x! This is a guy who doesnt display affection in public. Well i think its glorious! He made my week! 
Im tired n ready 4 sleep. Nick has a snow delay 2day. Im still glowing from my visit with danny yest. which was just too sweet 4 words. Please continue 2 pray 4 dannys recovery
Facebook on January 21 at 6:44am

Danny is really getting back to his old self lol. And all the sexual cute. Its 10pm. I called to check on him n he is sound asleep. In fact past 2 nights he hits the bed n goes fast 2 sleep with no more tossing n turning! And tonight he stood quietly to get meds thru his tube. Great accomplishments! 

Danny was hilariously funny early in the day, but as he tires gets agitated, restless, n a tad mouthy. Almost had me in tears a few times. I know its jus a normal phase, but sumtimes its hard 2 B strong day after day. God, I luv him so much. 2mrrw we C bone dr 4 hopefully good news on his neck, n i pray speech therapy allows him 2 drink. Its heartbreaking 2 hear him beg n beg 4 water n hafta keep saying not yet. 
For whatever reason in Danny's past, whether childhood trauma or family situations...or maybe just chemical make-up, Danny was never one to say "I love you". In almost 2yrs together he had only said it a couple of times. I never cared. I understood, and appreciated that at least he wasn't spitting those words out every half hour like most guys, until it means practically nothing except words to say. He always told me he didn't have to say that...I knew how he felt.
When I walked onto the brain injury unit on Thursday, he burst into tears when he saw me, hugged me so tightly and while sobbing, said "I love you Kathy..." Let me tell meant more at that moment than it could ever have meant at any other time in our lives.
Danny also isn't one for public displays of imagine my surprise in the physical therapy gym when he stopped in the middle of his exercise, came over to where I was sitting, asked me if I was ok, stood me up, and kissed me passionately three front of everyone. It was beautiful, although I felt kinda corny. Everyone in the room was watching, smiling, and one of the girls even looked about to cry. He made my week, my month. When people suffer a brain injury, one characteristic that seems universal, is that the brain's "filters" are removed. This can include inhibition, judgment, appropriateness. People in the first year, and especially first months of the injury will say or do what they want, when they want to. They really have no conception of how appropriate it is. Feelings and emotions, happiness, anger as well as sexual feelings, are displayed openly.  It became evident that he was entering this phase. He was beginning to say sexual things to me on my visits, and act out in a sexual way, much to my embarrassment, in front of others. He was also becoming angry at times and belligerent, and downright nasty with his comments at times. I being closest, of course received the brunt of it. Following the day of loving words and actions, was a day of him being hurtful and reducing me to tears. I tried to stay strong, but it was hard at times, and so stressful. Thank heaven for the folks on my brain injury support site, who assured me it was all normal and to be expected. He was continually ripping off his neck brace, and lashing out when we would put it back on. He was crying a lot, laughing at inappropriate things, and all over the place with his emotions. And so so confused that it was scary. I called him from home and when they put him on the phone sometimes he would say he missed me, or loved me...other times it was "hi...well I have to go now..."
He finally was put into the shower on Friday, and I was told it was a royal fiasco. He was over sensitive to the cold air, the hot water and the feel of it on his skin. A few days later I got to experience it for myself when I helped with his shower.  He started going to sleep better and the tossing and turning was slowing down. He was able to stand still for longer periods also, which was great when the nurses were trying to give meds and food through the tube. I looked at these things...these changes and phases, even the seemingly hurtful ones, as great strides in his progress.
At home I was swamped with mounds of paperwork to fill out...long applications from different agencies, disability went on and on. Having ADD myself I am still amazed at how I held it all together in an organized fashion. The thin notebook I was given at the start was replaced by a 3 inch binder that was filling up fast. The notebook went everywhere with me so I had anything I needed...any information required, at my fingertips.  The care plan update meeting again showed Danny was meeting and exceeding the goals given to him. Everyone seemed amazed at his recovery speed.

Wednesday, January 19, 2011


by Kathleen Quinn-Farber on Wednesday, January 19, 2011 at 5:34pm

within hrs of Dannys accident in the early AM of dec 4th, he was being stablized by the trauma team in icu @st lukes, n cuz of his most severe brain injury, diffuse axonal, which is a tearing and shearing of the neurons n their connectors over the entire brain, was selected 2 participate in a study being done on the healing effects of progesterone on the brain. In animals there has been scientific proof that the introduction of this female hormone as quickly as possible after injury, n continuing 4 several days, seems 2 kinda coat n protect the broken nerve endings until they start 2 repair, when normally those endings actually wither n die. The patients chosen recieve either the hormone or a placebo. We wont know which danny got until after the study ends sometime in the next 2 1/2yrs. I got our 1st monthly follow-up call 2day. Very impressive recovery so far she said. I wonder n suspect he recieved the real hormone, n if he did n it made some of the difference, i am grateful and thank God.

Progesterone Called Option for Brain Injury Treatment

By John Gever, Senior Editor, MedPage Today
Published: December 22, 2009
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Progesterone should be considered as treatment option for head trauma -- and perhaps other types of central nervous system injuries, researchers urged.
The hormone's beneficial effects on neuronal survival and functional recovery following traumatic brain injury have been sufficiently documented that its clinical use is now justified, according to Donald G. Stein, PhD, of Emory University, and his recent collaborator there, Iqbal Sayeed, PhD.
"There are now about 100 preclinical studies from laboratories in the U.S. and abroad showing the beneficial effects of progesterone treatment in a number of central nervous system injury models," Stein and Sayeed wrote in a "clinical perspective" article appearing in the January 2010 issue of the American Journal of Roentgenology.
They also pointed to two clinical trials, one in the U.S. and one in China, showing a that short course of progesterone improved function more than placebo in patients with traumatic brain injury. (See Progesterone Cuts 30-Day Mortality from Traumatic Brain Injury and Progesterone Improves Head Injury Recovery)
Stein has been studying the effects of sex hormones on brain function after injury for more than 20 years, primarily in animal models. But he was also an investigator in the U.S. clinical trial, which was led by another Emory colleague, David Wright, MD.
In that study, with 100 patients, 30-day mortality following head trauma was cut to 13% with progesterone compared with 30% in a placebo group. The 159-patient Chinese trial found that six-month mortality was reduced by about 40%.
In these trials, progesterone was given by injection or infusion over several days following injury. No adverse effects attributable to the hormone treatment were reported.
Stein and Sayeed suggested that, given this safety profile and the current lack of effective treatments for severe brain injuries, that it would be appropriate to consider progesterone as a treatment option.
"More than 30 years of testing and 30 trials involving 50 compounds failed to identify an acute-stage treatment for traumatic brain injury that could confer neuroprotection and enhance functional outcomes," they asserted.
They also pointed out the high frequency of brain injuries suffered by troops in Iraq and Afghanistan.
Stroke is also largely untreatable, Stein and Sayeed argued. "Aside from tissue plasminogen activator (tPA), which can be given to only about 3% of stroke victims and only during the first three to four hours after stroke onset, nothing is available for clinical use," they wrote.
No clinical trials of progesterone in stroke are planned, they acknowledged, and stroke differs in important ways from traumatic brain injury.
Progesterone has shown promise in preclinical stroke models but studies of how it behaves in conjunction with tPA should precede clinical application, the researchers recommended.
Stein and Sayeed added that animal studies have found that progesterone may also help in acute spinal cord injury as well as chronic neurodegenerative conditions such as diabetic retinopathy, Niemann-Pick C1 syndrome, and multiple sclerosis.
The exact mechanism for progesterone's neuroprotective effects are unknown, but Stein and Sayeed offered an evolutionary hypothesis for why they might exist.
They noted that progesterone levels are highest in pregnant women and they remain high throughout gestation.
"It is our contention that progesterone's mechanisms of action have evolved primarily to protect the developing fetus against oxidative stress and immune–inflammatory rejection reactions," the researchers wrote, adding that the hormone also helps regulate neuronal development.
"Many of the processes of CNS repair recapitulate the steps taking place during development, and this is why we think that progesterone may also show promise in the treatment of traumatic and degenerative disorders of the brain and CNS."
They concluded, "Given its relatively high safety profile, its ease of administration, and its low cost and ready availability, this hormone and its metabolites should be considered as a viable treatment option -- especially because, in brain injury, so little else is currently available."

Danny went back for a six-month evaluation for this study in early June. All sorts of questions were asked about his recovery so far. I truly think he received the progesterone because his recovery has been dramatically shorter than expected, as well as being significantly complete. The severe memory issues and personality changes, as well as confusion, are the residual effects we are dealing with now...but all in all, Danny is physically ok, except for some tremoring and weakness...his speech is unchanged...and he is doing great. We wont know for 2 more years whether he received the progesterone or the placebo...but i'm convinced he received it :-)

Monday, January 17, 2011


jumpin in the shower and off to spend the day with Danny. Why does this guy and his many faceted personality, make me feel all funny inside and full of butterflies like a silly school girl??

 Im exhausted. All day on my feet walking lol. Dannys still on an emotional rollercoaster. I am too. 

Made it home n to work on time. Have phone calls to make today, firstly to speech therapy to see if they can approve danny for a liquids order. He cried for a drink all day yesterday and his urine output was very little for me all day yest. Also need to call ppnl, insurance, n maximus 2 check status of our waiver for home health.

Danny had a rough day today. Is starting to go thru the next normal phase which is anger n agitation...the most difficult 4 families 2 see, understand n accept. I know he must be so frightened waking up in what feels like a different mind n body 2 him. Im headin down early in the morning.

Danny has me tired out n aching. Can only imagine how tired HE must be. seems a tad more confused but stayed mostly calm. He told the nurse im his miss america. How sweet is that?

Sunday when I got there Harold pulled me aside and told me that it wouldn't be a good idea to let Danny watch me leave from the window anymore. He said Danny cried like a baby for over an hour and was inconsolable :-(
Monday I requested Danny be evaluated again for liquids by speech, but they said he still "coughed" a bit with liquids and so he couldn't be cleared yet. It was getting to all of us in the family...the begging for a drink. He filled a rubber glove at the sink in his room even and tried to drink from it. I was helping him brush his teeth each day and was impressed that he would rinse his mouth with water from the cup afterward and not drink it, but Monday he looked me right in the eye, and down the hatch it went. Poor guy. I didn't blame him. He didn't choke or even clear his throat either.
He was still having crying jags, and more often. I hoped this would pass. It made my heart ache so. He also was getting agitated and angry at times...not real bad, but enough to be upsetting. Where he had been incontinent, he was now making it to the bathroom at least 50-70% of the time, but was easily frustrated when I tried to help him with his hygiene. Other times he apologized profusely to me for me having to help him.   He had dressings and protective pads on his arms and legs from all the moving in bed, which had created rubbed and raw sore places everywhere, especially on his elbows, ankles and knees. He was sleeping just slightly better at night, but while awake tossed and turned and scooted all over. I took to climbing right in bed with him to try to keep him still and situated until he could fall asleep at night. I was so truly was like wrestling an alligator!
to see him up and standing, walking, talking. He was what a miracle looks like!!! 

Sunday, January 16, 2011


You need to get some rest and take a day for Kathy. you need 2 listen 2 this wise old Lady.
Kathleen Quinn-Farber I know i know. I will rest more. Its just that i dont have lots of time to do all the stuff i want to and i want to be there with danny all i can. I know hes working hard to get better but i worry that he doesnt realize from day to day that all of us keep coming. My heart breaks when i think that he feels sad or alone.
January 15 at 8:34am

I went back to bed aunt judy! Lol. So its almost noon. Gonna get us dressed n our things together n head to the rehab. Nicks been askin if we can "go to dinner" so we'll stop in a diner on the way. Ha, i told nick we will be on the move 2day w/danny, walkin n what not.

3pm. We are at the Queen City Diner. Shouldnt be splurging but ordered steak and ham 4 nick. I let him sleep on the way to allentown and now he is whiney and crabby. Danny would say ignore the behavior. Well its pretty hard but im trying hunny.

Something that bothered me a lot during the time Danny was in the hospital, was that Nick was really put onto the back burner in a way. I had little time to spend with him with all my running back and forth to and from the hospital. I did make sure his homework was done and checked it. Shannon usually saw to it that he did the work right after school since I often didn't return home until 8pm, and I appreciated that. Ever since Danny started to work with him on things the previous year, Nick's school work, as well as social behavior improved drastically, and I didn't want to jeopardize that. I knew also though that Danny wouldn't like it if he thought Nick was being in a sense neglected. My friends on the support site, the rehab staff, as well as things I read, assured me that children are resilient and would weather this fine, but I also felt I needed to focus more on him. I tried best I could. He had been asking for us to "go out to eat", like in a real restaurant, so Saturday on the way to the rehab we did. He was overtired however, and quite crabby. He would be more tired by the end of our visit.
Danny was even more active than before, and we took turns pushing him back and forth through the unit. They had removed the seatbelt, and he would keep jumping up out of the chair and walking without warning every few minutes. He would go to the doors, which were locked, and push on them, and ask us to open them and let him out. He held my cell phone like a remote and aimed it at the key-in code pad, trying to open the doors. Sometimes he'd bang on the doors in anger. He begged me to take him to the car so we could leave. He became very emotional, crying at times, but also began to smile alot too. The staff was absolutely charmed by his smile, always commenting on it. We did laps for hours. He was always moving...riding, walking, standing. He was allowed to walk somewhat alone now as long as he was in view of a staff member. He opened closet doors and went into them and opened hampers to look inside. He touched the computers and things the nurses had on their station. He rooted through things in his room and was into everything. It was tiring...I could only imagine how tired he was making himSELF! He would not stay still, even for his feedings, which they were now dumping into the tube all at once. The nurses and I would run alongside him in the hall, one of us steadying the tube, the other trying to pour the formula in! He was constantly saying "I'm sorry mam" and "I don't mean to be this way". He would apologize profusely, sometimes crying. He wasn't allowed food of course, nor drink, and he asked a million times a day for a drink. It was heart breaking to keep telling him he couldn't have anything. Especially when he would say, "I'm so thirsty...just a little sip of water....PLEASE." He had a sense of humor too and could be so funny. We were walking in the cafeteria, and someone had left chocolate cake on a table. Before I could stop him he grabbed it, but instead of popping it into his mouth as I'd expected, he tossed it across the room at Nick!! When Deanne and I were walking in the hall behind him, he pulled down the back of his pants exposing his butt and said he was going to walk past the nurses desk that way. He took off walking fast and we had to run up behind him and fix his drawers! 
That night Harold had to distract him so we could get out the doors to leave. When we crossed the street below we looked up and Danny was waving from the cafeteria window. I could see he was crying and Harold patting his back...

R visit was great! No more seatbelt n allowed 2 walk w/someone watching from nearby. He was real emotional 2day, crying a tad but also spontaneously smiling. Nick n he had a nice time. He's still up,down,walking,sitting,standing non-stop. We gave his bolus feed striding the hall side by side lol! He said he loved us be4 we left n waved from the window when we were outside. 2mrrw gettin there early 2 spend the day :-)
Facebook on January 15 at 8:41pm 

Denise Marie Startzel He looked so good in the pics!
January 15 at 8:43pm · 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber oh he just looks wonderful. He wasnt smiling really at all til today. All the staff were like, "Just LOOK at that smile!!"
January 15 at 8:48pm ·

Judy Mitchell Kathy, Danny's recovery is truly amazing! I said it before ans I will say it again: it was the love and faith of others, but especially YOUR love and faith that brought him this far. Awesome. :-)
January 15 at 9:21pm 

Stacy Derr- Walker ditto Judy! GS and his will to come home have taken him this far. Dont be surprised if he gets released a tad sooner then u may have expected :)
January 15 at 9:32pm ·

Kathleen Quinn-Farber
Good Shepherd is an absolutely amazing place. Every single special person on the staff is so kind and caring and very patient. In 2 1/2wks there he has come so very far! Its like a new surprise and another miracle every time i'm there. He a strong will to come home too. It was breaking my heart tonight, cuz he is still quite confused and out of context, but he kept trying the locked unit doors, trying to break the code on the security keypad, and asking me to please take him to the car so we can leave. No matter how trying some of the issues are that he still has, its so wonderful to see him standing, walking, talking...omg its just too much sometimes!
January 15 at 9:42pm 

Stacy Derr- Walker
I totally get it. Its spine tingling for me to read! Its a true luv story :) How did you end up leaving w/o him trying to get out? It may be a dumb ? but does he talk in a way that you can make sense out of it or is it moreless trying to remind him of things to jar the memory. I know its still not long from the accident but he has come farther now then I ever thought at this time. And still has healing to do but this is simply amazing!
January 15 at 9:50pm 

Liz Leppig Waksmunski That is really good news. I am so happy for you both.
January 15 at 10:01pm 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber
haha...Harold, the male aide that he has quite a repore with, distracted him by telling him they could watch for us to cross the street below when we left from the dining room window. He did wave from the window too, and he was crying I know, cuz I could see Harold puttin his hand on Dannys back and patting it.
He says mostly things that make sense, but its different and hard to explain. Its like very random, out of no where things sometimes. But he is aware of what others around him are saying and things like that, and will often comment on it. He just cant keep still tho and is always saying he is sorry. He remembers some things but not others. Its very fascinating really. I just think now that God had some sort of plan for why this happened.
January 15 at 10:05pm 

Stacy Derr- Walker
Simply amazing! And thanks for sharing your story...its a book in the making :) Im telling are going to be in for a surprise when he is ready to leave before we alal expected. He wants to get home and has the drive he needs to ...make it happen....and sooner then we think...I think :) Can you stay all day if you like? And can he eat foods or not yet. Didnt know what was up with nurishments. Hang in there Kath...YOUR the wind beneath HIS wings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
January 15 at 10:58pm 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber Truly I hope he stays the 4 weeks. I want him to get the maximum he can get with all the therapies. He is getting tube feeds, but is drinking liquids and had applesauce, but they want to do a swallow study because he clears his throat when he swallows so they must make sure the swallow function is working right. He's working on continence issues too.
January 15 at 11:22pm ·

Kathleen Quinn-Farber
oh and yes, I stay all day. Its tiring, what with the constant movement things and all. Before he was walking he would flail in the bed(still does) and is in a netted type bed for safety, but days i was there I would sit right in bed with all day and keep him from climbing out. Its like wrestling a crocodile lol. But I love being there and its so hard to leave. And if he is going to start sobbing when i go that will make it harder. I hope thats just a passing phase.
January 15 at 11:26pm 

Stacy Derr- Walker Give yourself credit....u are always there and involved in his rehab. Thats whats keeping him moving forward. :)
January 15 at 11:28pm · 

Stacy Derr- Walker no passing phase...true luv :) the whole story is amazing. true luv conquers all.
January 15 at 11:30pm 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber I thought I was the only romantic left in the
January 15 at 11:31pm · 

Judy Peletsky I copied your pictures .Hope it's ok He looks so good can't wait for my foot to heal so I can walk on it ,So I can get down to visit .
January 16 at 9:29am 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber of course you can have the pix!! I hope your foot feels better soon!!
January 16 at 9:47am 

Sarah Hottenstein i'm really happy to hear how much he improves everyday. the lord is amazing and has worked a big miracle with your honey.
January 16 at 12:06pm 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber
Yes it is nothing short of a miracle for sure. But its not just my being there thats helped him. Its his whole family coming together for him. And its the faith and prayers of everyone too. We have got a busy load of work ahead of us. There... will be lots of trips weekly for therapies, dr appts and such, and getting him back on track with his counseling and meds. I cant wait til he is free to come home and i can say come on hunny lets go home, instead of trying to explain each time why he needs to stay while i leave.
January 17 at 12:37am 

John V. Peletsky Kathy, you are truly an amazing person and Danny is beyond lucky to have you, as we are all lucky to have you as part of our family.
January 17 at 5:28am 

Kathleen Quinn-Farber Aww. Thanx john. I feel the same way abt all of you :-)
January 17 at 6:08am 


On Saturday at Barb's I found a wonderful support group on the web. It's called I joined the brain injury support portion and asked about Danny's constant flailing in bed, and his need to keep walking and standing. I was too busy to get on the site REAL often, but over the past months it has saved my sanity, as a place to vent, share, and learn. I've met a few wonderful friends there. God Bless the Daily Strength Brain Injury Support Group!! 

Has anyone experienced the constant impulse to move???
My bf had his accident dec 4th. He has diffuse axonal injury. The docters said it was the worst kind to have and not to expect alot. He was in a coma 2 weeks. He is now in a rehab and is recovering quickly, walkingtalking, tho confused. He isnt eating foods yet. However, he has a need to move CONSTANTLY. It was awful at first and he had 2 ppl doing one to one supervision. He couldnt keep arms and legs from flailing. The involuntary movements when sitting in a chair have stopped. But he just keeps standing up and walking every 2 minutes. He cant help it at all. And as soon as he lies in bed, he rolls from side to side, gets on hands and knees, lies back down, then starts the process over again. It goes on til he finally falls asleep. Has anyone else seen this or had it? I'm worried abt it...
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Reply #1 - 01/16/11  3:59am
" I didn't have the need to constanrly move. Maybe a good thing too as I couldn't due to the bones I broke but I too had to learn how to eat after a coma. It does sound like he is improving all the time, as I did hugely in the first few months after the accident. I know it must be awful for you but just be there for him. Things will calm down. He will keep improving as he is now. It is so early now. i AM 3 years after mine and I am so much better than I was before. I don't remember the intial few months but I have been told some stories. Just be there for him. Things will keep on improving "
Reply #2 - 01/16/11  10:25am
" not only is this not one of the bizillion things to potentially worry about, this is a cause to rejoice! his brain is working, big time. the electrical circuitry is firing like mad, fiercely fighting to re-organize itself. movement equals muscle tone, equals strength equals vitality and therefor, health! the one to one supervision is fantastic! sounds like you're in a good place, luckily. civility and our own expectations don't apply, right now. let him be wacky and free of it all, while he's healing. and if possible, change your point of view, and have a little fun with all this absurd strangeness that's pouring out. i was a big fan of saying, 'not all of it, is bad.' my heart near bubbled over with love and laughter many many many times. "
Reply #3 - 01/16/11  10:41am
" also, i tried to document as much of the phases my son went, through as possible. i have several fantastic recordings of him just raconteuring about the most imaginative and nutty things that i've ever heard in my life. it was fascinating and fabulous. the reason i bring this up, is, that there seems to be a period of disbelief with the Brain Injured, that any of this actually happened, because they don't remember a thing. the short term memory being very suspect. of course this is much further down the road but it's very very real and part of the emotional acceptance that must occur. good luck and rejoice, your guys is a fighter! "
Reply #4 - 01/16/11  11:52pm
" thanx so much "Bitemarks" I really needed to think of this in this way. You are so right. And yes I have been noting all the amazing phases thru this. It is just fascinating beyond belief. I know Danny will one day find it helpful and equally fascinating just because of the inquisitive natured person he is...thanx again!!! "
Reply #5 - 01/20/11  4:31pm
" He's lucky to be alive! It will get better, try to be patient. It feels like it takes forever. It's been almost 5 years for me. I was in a coma for 3 weeks. I'm just walking w/ a walker now after everything else, swallowing, talking, memory, etc. I haven't heard about his injury, so all I can say is brains recover amazingly, mine has so much! GOOD LUCK! "
Reply #6 - 01/23/11  10:18pm
" just wanted to let you guys know that Danny is now sleeping at night and the tossing and turning crazily has stopped. He still walks and walks ALL DAY LONG, but thats a good thing...except when we have to run beside him trying to put meds and food thru his feeding "